Everything You Need to Know About Speed Dating Events!
So most of us have seen speed dating on TV right? , where it’s portrayed as possibly one of the most awful experiences on the planet. It’s easy to make a joke out of a quick interaction with a strange character we never have to see again. But in real life, that’s what makes Speed Dating fun and exciting!.
Here’s the lowdown on what speed dating is actually like.
- How does it work?
An equal number of men and women sit down at tables, armed with a name tag and a piece of paper or a date card. You meet someone, you talk for 5 minutes, and afterward you circle “yes” if you liked them or “no” if you didn’t. If you both circle yes, you are matched and get each others’ contact information in an email the next day. Sounds relatively painless, right?
- Is it fun?
Yes! You get to make quick judgements on people (we’re humans, we all love to judge and you know it), and you also get to meet a ton of interesting people you’d never meet would otherwise.
- So… what makes speed dating different from online dating?
When you date online, you pre-screen. You scrutinize over the little things. “This person’s profile looks amazing but… oh. They love to watch repeats of ‘Star Trek?’…. It can never work.” Speed Dating gives you the chance to meet people who are also looking for a date, but instead of learning everything about them up front, you have a short conversation with them to see if you get along. So you’re not brushing someone off for some interest they have that probably wouldn’t even effect your relationship with them, you’re getting a slight glimpse at whether or not you might actually enjoy their company.
- I scrutinize because I deserve someone who is up to my standards.
It’s good to have standards. Online dating can be a lot of fun, and can yield some great results. But sometimes it makes us forget that meeting people with different interests and different backgrounds is actually really fun and exciting. Have you not heard that some opposites attract? I would never have looked twice at someone who was very religious when I was using dating sites, I assumed that we were way too different! . But meeting my partner in person, I found her fascinating, caring and really enjoyed our conversation!.
- Okay, sounds great! How many friends shall I bring?
This is your dating life so be careful. Bringing friends along might help you feel relaxed going into the speed dating event which is great, but it could result in a conflict of interest! how would you feel if both you and your friends matched the same person? Big groups of friends may not be the best idea and can often lead to a pack mentality, Don’t find yourself agreeing with your friends that the one person you liked was not worthy!
- So, Four friends is probably excessive. But surely it would be fun to just bring along one friend right?
Going with one friend is definitely better than going with a big group of friends, but keep in mind there can sometimes be a jealousy factor. You have three matches and your friend only has one. Will it make them feel insecure?. You are two very different types of people, and are looking for different things from your date, but still. It’s human nature for things to feel like a competition!
- Okay, any last advice?
Don’t take it too seriously! It’s just an hour of your life. You know you’ve spent much more time than that on Plenty Of Fish and Tinder looking for a date. Spend the time enjoying talking to new and interesting people, rather than wondering whether or not each person you meet is your soul mate. Contrary to what you might believe, you cannot tell that from five minutes. If it doesn’t work out? No big deal. Those were ten strangers. Try again with a completely different group of ten strangers next time. Who knows what will happen? Or who you could meet!
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